We have all experienced the discomfort of a bride and groom trying to be the couple they are not, and have so wanted to tell them they can have a genuinely happy day just by being themselves. But are we really that different at work?
In business life so many of us are taught to believe that we have to dress and act in a certain way. We don’t have to be kind – “it’s not personal, it’s business”, and we can’t wear colours or patterns – “this is serious”. Perhaps that’s what turns so many people away from business. It’s the falseness of it all, the lack of freedom just to be yourself.
But you are running your own business now! You and your business are all but inseparable. You have the freedom to be yourself if you wish! Of course, it can take some courage to ignore the looks of peers who still follow the mantra, but if acting and dressing in a certain way makes you feel uncomfortable, maybe you need to give yourself permission not to do it. Is it possible your customers can sense your disquiet? Let’s face it, if you can be who you really are at work, you are much more likely to be genuinely relaxed and happy, attract customers who like you for who you are, and customers will probably trust you more without the actor’s mask getting in the way.